If you find yourself on a merry go round of self-sacrifice, which leads to resentment, which leads to martyr (aka look how hard it is for me) which leads to a empty well... I have something for you.
It is your job to be in deep service to radical self love. When you are in sacred service to yourself then you can be in SERVICE to the world around you. Not servitude. SERVICE.
From a full tank. Not an empty, dry well of resentment.
I have this vision of the woman who resentfully cleans the house hoping to be appreciated. Or the woman who always gives first in s*x hoping to GET the pleasure she hopes for.
You cannot will a different reality without taking conscious action and establishing boundaries. There is nothing to “GET”.
If you are accepting scraps of attention, love, care and support from the people around you, the chances are you have trained them to treat you that way.
What we accept communicates what we believe we are worthy of. No one can define that for us.
The good news is this — IT IS YOUR JOB TO HONOR YOURSELF AS DEEPLY AS POSSIBLE.
It is your job to find your YES, and communicate your NO.
When you are a NO to self-abandon, you can follow your YES to a new type of freedom. Choosing you. Choosing desire. Pleasure. Your delicious s*x. Your body.