I was coaching a wonderful female client earlier and we got onto the subject of talking about appetite.
Appetite for sex and food.
I notice this a lot, when I coach women, where the admission of what they truly want, the depth and variety of the experiences, the sex, the attention, is hidden under a guise of “IT IS OK, I don’t really have an appetite.”
I hear a version of this often:
“I like to eat the same thing every day because it’s easy. More digestible. Just enough. I’m not really having sex, or dating, or the attention I want. But it’s ok, work is great and I don’t really want it it anyway. I don’t even know what food I like, but it’s not really a problem because I don’t really enjoy food. My partner and I never have sex, but it’s fine because sex isn’t important to me.”
Well, I call bullshit.
Yes a nice, succulent, delicious green salad is sometimes what we truly desire…yet, the true physical nourishment we actually want is much more than this.
Yes, the sex once a month feels good…yet, the hungry beast inside of us isn’t getting fed.
Yes, we like to take care of ourselves……yet, when self-care is driven by deprivation the outcome is devastating.
Yes, being connected to our purpose is incredibly important…yet, there are so many part of us hidden away in the shadows of how excellent we are at self-sufficiency.
Most women I know actually have an appetite to similar to KING KONG and not a precious RABBIT.
We want to be sucked, fucked, and attended to with exquisite care by the people we are intimate with.
We want burgers in bed.
We want variety.
We want premium chocolate.
We want a different kind of menu when it comes to sex, food and experiences.
It’s vulnerable to admit that.
I get that, I really do.
The thing I’ll start with is this.
Your appetite is gorgeous.
Your hunger is your power.
Your desires will lead you home to your body.
Women, aka QUEEN KONGS…
What do you have an appetite for?
Please let the world know.
You’ll find me at www.fireupyourdesire.com/unleashed-sex debunking rabbit myths once and for all.